Day 240 | Pele Yoeitz - Worry, Distraction, and Therapy
Hey everybody, welcome back. Pela Yoe today 240, which is exciting. 240 is the numerical value gumatri of a malek. Um why that's exciting, I'm not really sure. But um truth is we'll see that today's topic actually can be uh counter to the attitude of a malek. A Malik is all about getting us distracted in life, about giving us doubts and worry. So we'll see that in our topic today, maybe it's not a coincidence the Hashkacha Pratis of the Hachsaik uh program up to day 240, learning the topic of distraction, the topic of Hesachadas, it's actually kind of uh mind-blowing. Alright, Guten Arab Shabbos, if you don't speak Yiddish, you should. I don't really speak Yiddish either. I just know a few phrases like Guten Shabbos. Alright, that's like okay. I think and then Guden Shabbos is only really one of those words, is Yiddish. Alright, be it as it may, I don't really speak Yiddish, but Judith is I should purchase the easy Shmizy book and learn about it. Alright, let's jump right in. Zekkal Gadalinin Hayahidos. This is one of the most fundamental principles in Judaism. A person should not be distracted from those obligations that are on his body and on his heart. If it happens that a person is losing a concentration on the rock of his holiness, Yoshiv Yahman, your husband. You should hold on right away. It's okay. You got distracted, that happens. Our brain is moving at lightning speed. We're thinking about this and about that, and it's hard to constantly think about our creator. It's constantly hard to think about the Khaivasagov and the Khavas Alvanas. Kokyasa Filipose says the Palioid is something amazing. Even if if it's sporadic that you're connecting, it's okay. Quickly do it. We go, we uh we have ups and downs, peaks and valleys, Rotze Vishiv. But says the Palaeoids, try, try. The Palaeoit says that, and this is something we've seen over and over and over again from the Palaeoids, the importance of writing things down. One of the ways to not become distracted is to write things down. This is true when you know you're writing a shopping list for shopping at a grocery store. You try to remember, oh shoot, you come home and you I didn't remember the potatoes. Okay, because you didn't write it down. You write down a list, you cross it off. That's a way to remember. And if that's true with a grocery list and buying things at a store, certainly it's true when it comes to our spiritual list of things that we need to do, all the obligations of our heart, of our soul, of our body. Okay, Vamilasia Mosha. Oh, we just said that. Sharima villa de zahiro, because seeing leads to remember, and you see what you wrote down, now you could remember what you need to do. Oh yeah. So now he talks about tefillin a little bit. A person has to have tremendous zaheros. We have to be very careful, shalom, not to uh be distracted. Person, right? Tefillin is not just about putting it on, but it's about wearing it inside. Like what does it represent? It's supposed to help us in him shakimendo to draw out fear, to love a karishpa dichadaim. The mean, the primary way to fulfill tefilm, not just by donning it, but it's about wearing it inside. It's about the live, it's about the key, it's about the not being masihdas, it's about being connected. Okay, he talks about in the section of lab, look over there. If a person receives a taiva, a friend of his does something good for him, Rosh Lish Khanables, the same idea, right? The idea of Hesikadas we often uh view in terms of like bracos or something like that in Abu Rushem, but it it's true in all areas, in all relationships, and it comes to people. Right? Somebody did a sativa, write it down. Remember, make sure to not be distracted from the taiva that they did to you. On the flip side, if a friend does something not so good, you should kachan be vestichan. A person should be easy going to forget that midday do, to have hesikadas. So there are times where hesed kadas is actually a good thing that a person should be distracted, right? If a person did something harm, be distracted from it. Think about something else. Don't let that bother you. Like it says in this week's parsha, right? In Parsh's Kidash Masharmater, it says, Loisitar, don't bear a grudge. Lo sika vositar, what's the next words of the passa? Don't bear a grudge. Let's say a person has thoughts, bad thoughts, inappropriate thoughts, here hurim, right? Uh shash tfila, especially at times of tfila, yitara loves giving us random thoughts at times during Dhamma, right in the middle of Shema Answere, Uv Talmud, what is a shemisbah, a person should dream be try to be distracted from these random thoughts. Uh Hesichadas from those thoughts to have um to have the proper das to serve your creator and to talk to him. But you have to leave a livery tara, but it is a shem's brave. Right? It's hard, you can't stop you force yourself if you're thinking about an elephant right now, elephant, elephant, elephant, you can talk about a rose, you rose, rose. You think about the elephant, you think about the rose, you think about the mind's all over the place. It's hard if we're thinking about something to think about something else, because then when so, what does a person do? A person should learn to think about tyra. A person should dab and he should pour his heart out, and he said, God save me, me, tit be alba, save me from this quicksand so I don't drown Ulay or Khmenu say, or perhaps Hashem will have pity. If a man has worry in his heart, he should remove it from his thoughts. Like we were talking about, this is day 40. Amalik was all about giving us daiga, suffi, doubt, worry, right? But we're we're being taught, no, no, you have to remove worry from your heart. If Rab idan khedba, a person who's having an enjoyable moment of Asa Vadhis Hashemisbah, or he's serving his creator, me bailyy aturi may daito, he has to find a way to maintain that presence of mind, to be in the moment of Ali Day. Hamik be mahshabbas to hires through thinking about pure thoughts. So the Azar Mishakai, having help from Hashem, Yinsa, T'anuspikos Lasih Daito. He's going to be able to maintain that level of Das Khomashirh Lasih Mi Daito, and he's going to be able to remove the distracting thoughts. This is an important rule. A person is unable to think two thoughts at the same time, right? And so this is this can be used to our advantage. When a person thinks a thought that really should be removed, a person has the ability to now think about something positive, to think about something else, to transform the Ra into good, to remove that Ra that you're thinking about, and now think about something good, something positive. Let's say this is not working. Then a primary method, which is very relevant today with therapy and things like that, is to speak to someone, to go to counsel, yes, discuss what's on your mind, or lay it over and express that. How you could wake from your sleep, and you're not gonna be somebody who's just in a state of utter slumber. Somebody whose slumbers is in the realm of transforming the waters of the river into blood, right? This is a takeoff, take off from the the plague of magazam, where water turns into blood. The Paleoids is using this interestingly as this like analogy for a person who's in a state of deep slumber, where instead of thinking positive and instead of being focused and maintaining presence of mind, he's distracted and all over the place. A person who's able to relay that over, he's not going to transform that river, which is meant to be flowing with beautiful water. And chash, if it's not done right, if it's a person it doesn't have the right clean, the right vessel to share though to share that with, and he's just stuck in his own misery and his own pain. So then those waters, which are meant to be beautiful waters that he could could quench you and give you, uh provide you with um quenching your thirst, that water can chase turn into blood. Al Yakul devarav'i Mishbat Kizam, a person should balance his personal matters with justice. This is the entirety of man. This concludes the section of Hesseh Hadas. We should be to um use utilize Hesse Hadas to be distracted from the things that we should be distracted from and to be focused on the things that we are meant to be focused on, wishing you all the best. Okay, Shabbos and we'll see you next week. See that.
