Better To Dine at Home | Pele Yoetz | Hachzek Day 86
Alright, Khavra, how are you? Today is Ervshabis Parsha's Kiseitse. Let's jump right in. New topic today, the topic of Khash and being suspicious. If you're suspicious as to what today's about, well, let's jump right in. Amr Zachinam Livraha Khazalov tell us call odam you chashudbe that a person should view all other people in his life, meaning, okay, maybe not everybody, but you should suspect others like bandits. Meaning, don't be so trusting of every person. Right? You're gonna take safeguards. You do this in business, you do this in life. If a person's vigilant to safeguard his body and his material wealth, Allah's come with Kamala, and assume Shuthark Lakh Shukla, well, shouldn't you be suspicious and ensure that you're caring for your soul? Meaning you have to be suspicious of people regarding prohibitions that they might do them. Not to judge in a negative way, but to care for yourself. And he's gonna give examples. It could be they're net maybe not on purpose, it could be they're just negligent, maybe unlearned. But then Bimachal, Mishtiosachin, Davarbara, Loshehu Nisar Kamosa Paleoids today, is primarily talking about trying to avoid going to people's homes where you just like just stay home. You're probably safer there. Um because who knows what foods and drinks they're allowing into their home. Well, probably m Kvarhu Khashid, especially if the person in question is already in the subject of suspicion, meaning he's known to be a suspicious type of guy in this area, he's not as careful, that's what it means. You can't even believe a guy, even if he makes an oath, Sha Khosh, al Dovelo Donavido, because somebody who actually is suspect in regarding these things, um, you can't even can't give testimony. Peleod says it's praiseworthy for a person not to go to someone's home to partake in their food. Maybe they're not careful and have them, maybe the guy touched their wine, which is us sir. Maybe they didn't check their lettuce, their veggies properly. Or until maybe they didn't wash their hands in the morning, and therefore when they prepared the food, they're mitamiya. What's their where do the what does that family hold of Basabakhala and Shemira Shabbas, etc.? So you you never really know what you're gonna get, again, unless you know. So that's why a person has to be chash or you have to be live with a certain level of suspicion, and that way you're caring for your soul, just like you would in your business, so you won't lose money. Yeah, this is the ideal, but it's not practical for everybody. You can't always just dine in your own home. Sometimes people derive honor from having you in their presence. Let's say they invite you to a wedding and you don't go because you're you're chosen uh or or again, not necessarily in an evil way, but you you're trying to be extra careful, but really they would have tremendous honor and joy if you come be Mishtati from their simcha. So then you should go. Uma gam shemyirtalasu Zoos, not only that, but Vikhaw kihai khasido shlonagoboshlamim, right? If you're adopting this custom, people might start thinking you're extra haughty. People, they'll be like, Well, I mean, back in yesteryear, people didn't necessarily do this. Why are you being greater than them, not coming to my simch? It's gonna lead to costing doubt, cut to casting doubt on the earlier chachamim. Did did we not see these sages, these pious men, um before uh you know, coming and joining um before you came along? Valkain, look, local, are to lito as shim alas, khasi to zayaches. So everybody has to judge them themselves separately, and meaning if people will gain from your honor at their at their house at their at their suda, maybe you tackle you should go. Don't be too firm in that regard. Um, again, it's a it's a it's a very nuanced and balanced thing because if you know they're serving trave, obviously you can't eat it. It's not a heter if someone's gonna have you joy. Oh, I'm gonna feel so happy that you come to my suda and we're serving pig. No, yeah, yeah, you have to live with um chokem, right? With chachm, wisdom. Says really this ideal um way mahalakhayim of not going to people's homes or or just dining at your own home and being resolute with that. He says that's really only relevant uh for people who are, let's say, not as well known, um, and therefore people might not care or not if you're there or not. It's an interesting get there. Hemi chalmuzarbius alkalada, because these people have the opportunity, they can take the extra precaution, and they don't have to go. Um, eat in the home of the others, they're not gonna like insult other people by not going. But certain people will insult others by not going, and therefore they have to uh possibly go. Okay, that concludes today. Um, today, and Mr. Chem will pick up with this topic on Sunday. Have a beautiful Shabbos, and Mr. Chem, I look forward to learning with you next week.
