In-Laws Deserve the Utmost Respect | Pele Yoetz | Hachzek Day 78
All right, Khadra. I hope you're doing amazing. Today is Wednesday, and here we go. We continue the topic of in-laws. Yesterday we were primarily talking about a son-in-law's role and the relationship, and how he's supposed to constantly make himself Leo's lehem kibban. That was how he ended off. He should be like a son. Now we're talking about the woman's role, the wife's role, that she should be extra vigilant to honor her husband's parents, her in-laws. Shari Amru Kabin Savikh is a mech alo tunaf, right? Right next to respecting your parents, it says not to commit adultery. What's the shaikas? What is the relation? Ma'inyun Eza Itzelze, why are the two commands next to each other? And it's telling us if a person marries a woman, but that woman does not show his parents' honor. So in their old age, it's like he, it's like the husband has committed adultery his whole life, meaning he married a woman that's not a good, a good woman. The Kachememar Khabit Valoitinov. That's why it says the two next to each other. We have to be careful to ensure that we are respecting our parents and our and of course our in laws. The coming of gives Adam Ya Geva Kama, Sagotar Giddabana Shimgela Perka and soon. Think about how much time, effort, money was invested from your in-laws into your husband or from your in-laws into your into your wife. Realize that. Think about how much all the hope that they put and the fact that they married him off. And they fight, right? And then after all this, the daughter-in-law stands up in anger against the in-laws, against the mother-in-law. And it causes arguments and strife in the home of Osashikama, Benyas, Machalekis and her nagging an argumentation and lack of respect, then it causes the husband to now lose his respect for his own biological parents. And it's a terrible thing. Women are very powerful, they're very strong, and the husband will go after his wife's lead. Videlef Taureth Midjine Isha. And it's like the Posak that says a contentious woman is like a troublesome dripping. The end will be that the sons will abandon their father's own completely because they're just going to follow their wives' ways. And that's not only that that. Her future daughter-in-laws are going to act in that way towards her. Besides for the punishment in the next world. Says the Palayoids, what's the proper mahalach for children in regarding treating their in-laws? A woman who fears Hashem, she will be praised. She should honor her in-laws even more so than the husband honors them. It should be like the manner of a king and a queen. She should do whatever they desire, to do what they want. This is true. It's not only true when you rely, meaning you're actually getting money from your in-laws, mean pito yourshich. And then certainly you're chaived to honor them, right? You don't want to uh be a denier of good. Even if your husband is the one who's supporting your in-laws, right? So even then you have to respect them. The fact that you're supporting your in-laws shouldn't make you not respect them any less. Remember, think about the entire life that they did, that the the in-laws invested into your husband to get to bring him to where he is. So that doesn't go for now. It's never a reason to slight their honor, even if um there's a tremendous yoke of responsibility upon the daughter-in-law, she has to live with deference, with respect. Remember that the merit of your parents is actually going to help you as a as a couple of dua. Somebody can feed his father and his mother delicacies, but he could actually uh be earned, he could actually earn a share in the work in Gehenim in the process. On the flip side, um somebody can make uh you know, he could grind with a millstone for the sake of his parents, but he could earn a share in the world to come. It's dependent on something deeper. What does it depend on? How called that called Talawi says the Palayoitz Benoim Sea Kvanoges Kovit. It all depends on the pleasantness, on the expression, on the smile, on the on the attitude, on the honor, on the respect, and how you treat them. Even if a person's, even if the woman's in-law is his mother-in-law, they're troublesome people. And they don't get along. And it's hard to get along. Which is many sometimes when people get older, it's just it makes it that much more difficult. Um, and it's i it it you would think it it almost becomes naturally more lax to show them honor because they become more of a burden. But a man and woman who are discerning individuals, they have fear of a kurushbar who, these types of people, they're never gonna falter um with this bur with this burden. They're gonna always care for their parents. They're not gonna contend, they're not gonna fight with their parents. They're gonna fear the day of judgment. Hashem was going to sit in judgment upon every harsh word that was spoken, and any form of insult that was given by Mahabhhuba Roschariya Kavul Mahoupah on the flip side, somebody who shows honor to one's parents, even um when they get older and it's not treated as a burden, but they they they they they they show respect and do everything that they could out of love and kindness, the fumsaragra, then in relation to the effort and exertion that you put in that will be your reward, we should all be Zah Um to have shown in our homes. Wishing you all the best, and Mr. We'll continue with this topic tomorrow. See that.
