You are Not Better Than Him | Pele Yoetz | Hachzek Day 30
How are you? Day 30. Paleoitz. Let's jump right in. New topic. Zilzul. Disrespect. Let's see what the Peleoites have to tell us about not disrespecting others. Zilzel, the Khwaita Khim, Zerchizar, Harbi. A person has to be very careful not to show disrespect for others. Whether it's through the words that we say or through the actions that we do. A person has to think, use the brain in the cup. The brain in the cup, is that redundant? I don't know. A person has to use his cup, his brain, and realize what is something that's disgraceful, what is something that's disrespectful. Somebody who's a called a naki is somebody who's ahear and czar is he's careful and diligent. He thinks prior to performing. He should imagine if he himself was in his friend's position, would he say this thing? Would he do that thing? If you would be in that position and you would feel hurt, you would feel disrespected by being told that, by being done that thing, by having that thing being done to you, don't do that to your friend. This is a claw that we know of this nelle khabi, that which you don't want done, don't do. So, meaning that which is hated to you, don't do. Um Zekal, Godlobatara, this is a general rule as it relates to the Tara. But Em Samr says it's m ra echutzmif be negeatmo. People see faults in others, but very little in themselves. There's almost nothing easier in the world than finding some flaw in something in someone else. And there's nothing as difficult. Sorry, vein koshe ba'lam kimo la hakir mume atzmo. Right, there's nothing more difficult than recognizing his own faults. Meaning we're very quick to judge others in a negative way and ours our in our own selves in a positive way. And so we have to be very careful with that so it doesn't call cause zilzot, so it doesn't cause disrespect to others. He shouldn't be involved in things that will lead to self-aggrandizement, physical pleasure, right, in exploiting the honor of his friend for the sake of his own honor. For example, people are suspect of him doing something wrong. He shouldn't say, no, it wasn't me, it was him. You're gonna add insult, injury. Shamr Bashas, it says in Baba Basr Lahjush, this is called Lashanhar, which is not a good thing to say. This is this is actually a very something very common. People love to be funny, and it's okay to be funny. It's a beautiful thing to be funny. Hashem created humor, it should be used. A lot of Jewish people over the years have become some of the funniest people in the world, right? So many comedians, etc. But it can't be used to harm others. That's not funny. So like the Simcha's hoululos. And they'll, you know, to try to get their hand. You, Mizalzamish, they'll belittle righteous person people, marbim with dabalitonosal love, and they'll increase in mockery, show and shurinu, mazkar, e zivkalina, or targum, lalogulag, they're gonna make fun. They're like shooting arrows, like shooting arrows and then playing laughing with their blood. It's a terrible thing. Woe is to them these people. Shagamlu, raal nafum, they're causing great evil unto themselves. Ra'a taiva alaim, it's a great disgrace. Somebody who makes a mockery, so meaning he's using the notion of making others laugh and things like that, but in in not in a healthy, not in a productive way. It's going to Khazasham lead to Yasur, Vesophukloya, and then destruction, Rahman Allah, Sanabim Khan, like I talk about in its place. He thinks, hey, what do you mean? I'm causing others to laugh, to smile. Aren't I doing a wonderful thing? I'm doing a mitzah of Saif Isaim Ram. No. If a person makes others laugh through mockery and things of the like, through um evil things, Elu Yard Yerdu Avelem Shalem Loit Nu Lev La Shov, unless they do Teshuva, they'll gonna descend into the grave in mourning. Umskan Batar. Torah scholars have to be very cautious when they engage in Torah study, Obakhsav, or in their writings. Obakhasvan in their writings. That way they have to be careful not to um cause disrespect to others if they don't if meaning if those other people don't hold them up to their standards, they shouldn't speak in a disparaging way. But feel sure of a deep caution, even if the friend does go out of line and speaks harshly, who ya says, Shalovich Malafi Max mechatoboshora. Put a muzzle in your mouth, don't say anything. If you're a Torah scholar and you're communicating with Balibatim, Tara Zero, you say if they're in short to show each other honor, be dibura, kate shallow yomis that people shouldn't say Zonus me farksos, you don't want to cause desecration, especially if someone's a Tamakh and they're held to higher standards because they are the ambassadors of the Torah. Now it's true, everyone's ambassadors of the Torah, but especially somebody who makes it their umnus, uh, they have to be very careful. But Ish Yosh, somebody who's an upright person, he has to be careful in every single creature, every single human being has a certain level of value, and you can't disrespect them. The person's own wife and his servants, even though they are Meshubitim, right? There's no permission to um disrespect them. Uh Mayisun Odam Al Khavero. What in what sense is man any better than his friend? I mean, what makes you better than the other person? I don't know, nothing. So you don't disrespect him. Disrespect means I'm greater, you're worse. Hallo Khatum Gadol Shamur, aren't they all equal? But Fili Shaabshi Yosemi Adonov, it could be that a slave versus a master, it could be that in the eyes of the omnipresent, in the eyes of a good, it could be the slave is actually more free than the master. Isn't that amazing? Even if they transgress your will and you feel a little bit disrespected, you know what you should do is speak to them gently, softly with pleasantness, and guide them in the right path, Kashir Haya right in a path that's wanting. You should um instruct them in a calm way, as he would want others to do to him if he was in their shoes. Wishing you an amazing rest of your day, Mr. Shun. Tomorrow we'll finish out this topic of Zilzo. Let's ensure we're all respecting each other. All the best.
