Day 228 | Pele Yoeitz - Don't Expect Perfection: Majority is Good
Hey everybody, hope you're doing amazing. Day 2, 28, in our Pelioids journey. Today is Friday, Erif Shabis, and here we go. We're learning a new topic called Hanhaga. Personal conduct. Kalodam Tserk Liuslah. And Hagatab, everyone has to have proper conduct and behave. Lay Dalis Nagimbanam to know how to conduct themselves with their children, Akhtanim or young, the Mband of Agdalim with the children or elder, VM Ishta with his wife, V. With his attendants. Via Isitar Nagla Farn Saltiba, especially if somebody is a leader, they have to know. Lay Dalis Nagiman, Fitzarh Shal, Lifimashim, Lufitatum, Lufim Dosmisavas Kadala, a person who's a leader in a position of authority, a rubber something like that. He has to know how to conduct himself properly with the people of his city, of his community, of his kihilo. A lot of times the hanhaga necessary for a personal leadership position is needed to be according to the needs of the immediate needs of the people. According to the wisdom that these leaders have, that's gonna be how what what the city is gonna end up looking like, what the community, what the kilo is gonna look like based on the wisdom of the people. Even if somebody is a great orator, if a great leader, it's very important. Someone in a leadership position, he has to realize that he's not gonna win all the time. He's not gonna have everybody who's head over heels over. Not everybody thinks to say, not every not everybody's gonna like you. Even Moshein, the greatest leader of all time, the greatest Jewish leader, right? He didn't have everybody on board with him. Rakdan Leheman tesis always, it's important to know that to get the majority is something as well. And just to bring this home a little bit, you know, we we teach a lot at home, you know, with children, and we try to do things. And even in our own lives, we try to do things, but it's important we're not gonna be successful, quote-unquote, 100% of the time. So there's this idea of Aliba Deruba to get most of the time. We're sometimes we're gonna, you know, speak in a way to our children to our children that maybe we shouldn't. Some we're gonna slip up and speak to our wife in a way that we shouldn't. Sometimes we're gonna speak to ourselves in a way that we shouldn't. But but what are we doing aliba daruba? What do we do most of the time? And I think that's an important thing to remind ourselves. Once again, I think that's an important thing to remind ourselves in terms of realizing what's aliba derubah? How does it look most of the time? Because we can't be there 100% of the time doing things exactly how they're supposed to be. That's just not human. The godal devil shame, itzah, a person has to be able to listen and be open to hearing advice. The more a person gets it, the more wisdom he has the shua but salvation comes through an abundance of guidance, of guidance. The godar shameless musul mosun a person has to be very deliberate. That's the second safeguard. Person has to be very deliberate in making decisions and thinking things through. But if inshallah dates it to go, she means a person who has to think, he's about to make a decision. Well, what's that gonna lead to? What's that gonna lead? Imagine every decision you're making, imagine like you're playing chess. You're thinking about the next move and the next move and the three moves and four moves from now. Uh okay, not that every time you play chess, you're thinking like that, but the that's what the master chess players do. The al-ashlesh lova, the third condition, the third safeguard, she o'lagabin, which is better than the first two, which is more important. She nilabachir, a person has to talk this greater, a person has to consult with God. A person who's in the position, a person's a father, a person's a husband, a person's a wife, a spest, a person who's a position of leadership, whatever it is. You're a teacher, you're rapi, you're dealing with people in your life, even at work. Ask Hashem for Itzah. Ask Hashem for help. That's the most important thing, and that's why it's something al Kimbodim, ki ailo devaram, sham shia. There's no there's no limit. Not every person, not all times are equal. Let's say a person is not relying on his own um on his own wisdom, so their general rule should be listening. This is the general rule when it comes to um dealing with people. A person should be gentle. He should have a pleasant countenance, he should smile, omelos mussukos, and speak with sweetness. Because certainly is greater, it's more of a likelihood that he's gonna reap rewards than to lose out. The Prabhupadazal, especially in our generation, where um the chutzpah is adamant. A filo kitana in the calm kal karkashus. Children don't accept things when they're scolded, when it's harsh. Rather, a gentle tongue, a soft tongue, can break a bone. We have to speak with gentleness. Kulai high vulai, perhaps then you devour this one, then our words will be heard. With Zaya Adam of Lumala, and with this, a person will beloved, be beloved from on high, but nachem you desire here down low, call him all those days, Vashem Lin Mato, La Hochemasam, Shem will not hold with will not withhold good from those who walk with wholeheartedness. We should all be to tap into our personal Hanhoka, our personal conduct conduct, and conduct ourselves with pleasantness, with a pleasant countenance, with gentle words, because this is really what's going to make the biggest impact. And like we mentioned, the person shouldn't think that they're gonna be successful 100% of the time, because even the greatest leaders aren't gonna get 100% of people are on board. But aliba daruba is worth something. Ensure that most of the time you're doing the right thing, you're working on your we're speaking to our our spouses properly and we're dealing with our kids properly. The person shouldn't think, Oh, that be so extreme. Well, you said this, and now you know the ter no, no, no, just relax. Try to do it, aliba deruba to to live with this type of wishing you all the best, a shabbach alone, agach, and Rita Shem, we'll see you next week.
